To See Him….

•May 6, 2009 • Leave a Comment

      So, let me start off by saying, if you’ve read any of my previous posts about God working on me to be a better husband this post you will understand better.  God has been workin on me strong since the beginning of this year.  Pushing me to die to myself and live for His glory!   Especially when it comes to my relationship with my wife.  At first I was gun ho and ready to be a servant.  But then as I understood emotionally and physically what that meant to be a servant to her needs it started to feel like God was asking  me as His “young child” to swallow a horse pill.  Without crushing it..  No peanut butter to hide it in…  No water to follow it!  Just open up and swallow, no chewing!  I’d feel depressed and aggrivated at times…  And lately we even had a big fight.  Mainly about whose working in our marriage…    What I’ve come to learn is neither of us were working as much as God was. 

      At the begining of this year I was seeking to get outta they way so that He could work on her.  But this has been more of a journey about me learning to be more thoughful and tenderhearted towards her.  Chilvary ain’t dead fam, just lost in “The Notebook” (commercialed and covered up) and in my culture,  it’s perpatrated as “having money, buying the bar, coping the nicest gear and just plain ole paying paying 4 someones love.  But I digress.  I don’t think in all our seven years of marriage I’ve had as much trouble.  I mean I was really depressed, feeling hopeless in my mission to be a better husband.  I keep falling, but the wonderful thing is…  Is when I fall, I keep seeing God’s hand in the whole thing.  Don’t get me wrong, ya boy be messin up and having to come back feeling like a complete loser!  But then God’ll show how He used that and I’ll see were my lovely wife is changing before my eyes.  Even though I acted the fool!  This leads me to believe that maybe, my eyes are on the wrong battles.  Or maybe at the whole war.  His thoughts and ways are not like mine. 


      So really He has been workin this whole time.  And even through my failures He’s brought me victory I could have never achieved.  As is my wife and I are closer together than we’ve ever been and enjoy our time together.  In times past I’ve been a jerk face and couldn’t even see her or her needs because I was too busy worrying about me gettin served. Just wanted to say that change comes at a loss..  And eventhough sometimes you feel like you’re losing and may appear to have setbacks, it is where your eyes are that really makes the difference!  May our eyes always be on Him!  Hopefully I didn’t sound like a scatter brain….  Peace!!!


A penny for ya thoughts….

•April 13, 2009 • Leave a Comment

How many good thoughts pass through our minds that never get done….?  Do you think about sooo much good  Calling your old friend to say you’ve been thinking about them!  Praying for the family you know is struggling!  Cooking a meal for those peoples you know would greatly appreciate it!!  Gettin off the computer, tv video game to read God’s word or play with the kids!  And with all the thinking you get confused about what if any of that you did and what was just a thought!!  Ahhhhh…. If you say no you haven’t, then I am alone!!!  Let us began to take advantage of these thoughts and acting on them when they pass through!  Only something I’ve been thinking about lately….LoL  Peace Fam!

•April 7, 2009 • 1 Comment

Some stuff been onmy heart fam and I just thought I’d pass them on to you.  So without further adue, lets get it in!  Lately God has been dealing with me about keeping His word.  Who cares if I know it in my head and can quote it off top if I ain’t livin it!  IN recent times I’ve been frustrated because I read, read, read, read but then can’t recall most if any of what I had just read earlier in the day.  Well, I began to wonder what if I read less as far as amounts and did more focused reading on what it is I know God’s dealing with me about!

In Ezra 7:10 I’ve found a scripture that says

10For Ezra had set his heart to study the law of the LORD and to practice it, and to teach His statutes and ordinances in Israel.

That should be me.  I no longer want to be a hearer of the word, but a doer! see James 1:22 Basically, ya boy is gettin tired of reading just to say “i’ve read”, or to ease my concious.  But i want to read that i may be like Jesus.  Who cares if I read all stinkin day, but then treat my wife like crap.  Or live like I don’t even know Jesus when I get to work.  I want to merge how I live and wht I believe! Myprayer lately has been this Psalms 119:5;

Oh that my ways may(A) be steadfast
in keeping your statutes!
So thats all fam.  Not much, I pray u to be encouraged that if you say you are in His family then you walk like he did!  Amen!

One Thought and Another

•February 27, 2009 • 1 Comment

So the last two weeks for me have been reaaallllyyy slow. Slow weeks make me tired.  I go to work with the idea of pushin out my workload, but it always ends up in me gettin tired/discouraged and giving up half way through the day.  This attitude then follows me home and I don’t feel like playin with the kids or helping my wife.  Cryin and whining kids then easily aggitated me, all noise does. 

So what I started doing all this week is drinking energy drinks.  Coffee ones like “Rockstar Mean Bean” and “Monster, Java’s”.  They worked pretty good to. Them mugs was so nasty though.  It makes me wonder if the reason they work is cause once it hits ya tongue you gotta run to get it off.  And in the process you get ya work done. 

So my next thought is about the husband and wife relationship.  It’s really address to husbands and how we should view our wives.  More than once in the bible,  specifically  the old testament portion refers to the wife as “the wife of thy youth” .  see Proverbs 5:18,  Malachi 2:14  So this has got me thinking that maybe I should always veiw Denise (my wife) as that cute, shy lil something that worked at subway with me.  Reguardless of the disagreements and troubles that come I should comtinue to treat and see her as the wife of my youth.  To all who maybe reading this…  Married men.  Let me encourage you to check out a message by C.J. Mahaney entitled “Sex, Romance and the Glory of God”!  Here’s the link  And until next time…”Do The Stanky Leg”…LoL  Peace!

Gettin Low

•February 23, 2009 • 2 Comments

Daaaagg, I ain’t been through in a minute.  I been having something on my heart to write about.  Something God’s been dealing wih me about.  I just kept saying I would write after I’ve did exstinsive study on the subject.  Well, this is not coming from that study.  Simply because I haven’t done that study.  What I have done is lived and breathed the verses God has shown me and stayed before His face that I may walk it out. 

The passage comes from Phillipians 2:3-7, which says….

3Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. 4Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. 5 Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, 6 who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, 7but made himself nothing, taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men.

God has used this passage to speak to me on how to be a better husband.  Remembering that in the marriage relationship I am called to be Christ-like (christ jr).  Loving my wife as Christ loves the church, giving Himself up for her.    As a man, I have needs and beyond that, there are other responsibilities at the church and to others I  feel are important.  It’s not like I neglect my wife to go goof off with the guys or do my own  thing.  But God is challenging me to set aside what I deem as important to me and seek the interests of my wife.  Shucks, it ain’t no secret that she has to be home with four kids and it can be, if not always is tiring.  So I need to consider her needs above my own and not just in hopes that she’ll see and repay me.  But not considering what I should be getting as a husband and pouring myself out like Christ did.  So lately my prayer has been to keep me humbled under God’s hand so that I can take interest in Denise and her needs!  God has been faithful to do it!  Will you let Him prove Himself faithful in your life?  Till next time!  Holla

Christmas Rush? Or Bum Rushed?

•November 29, 2008 • Leave a Comment

It’s crazy that we’ed trample and jack folks just to buy a gift for someone!  How about if indstead of spending all that time in the line waiting for the doors to open and then wasting all that energy just to spend our already hard earned cash! We just took all that time and energy and gave it to them directly!!!!  We would benefit our children and loved ones much more that way!!!

Actually catching all those people in the crowd before stores open would be a good time to drive through in a truck over a bull horn and preach Christ’s suffeceincy (sp)!  Sometimes big department stores at this time of year could be seen as slaughter houses dressed up in low prices and good deals!

Get Ya Grill Dawg

•November 24, 2008 • Leave a Comment

What up fam?  HAven’t come through in a minute…  But errthangs good good!  God has been blessing us spiritually!  I’m still at coke and Denise is due for our next installation on December 30th!  Her name is gonna be Amaya Renee Chavis!  My other three are doing ood and gettin bigger!  I’m tryin to talk my wife into starting a family blog…  Look out for that…. Anyway, this is not why I’m bloggin, so lets get into it!

Matthew 12:33-37

 33.. “Either make the tree good and its fruit good, or make the tree bad and its fruit bad, for the tree is known by its fruit… 34.. You brood of vipers! How can you speak good, when you are evil? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks… 35.. The good person out of his good treasure brings forth good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure brings forth evil… 36..I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak,.. 37..for by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.”..

see also: Proverbs 10:21, 32


Lately, God’s been dealing with me about my mouth!  The things I let come out it and He’s been giving me the desire to be an encourager!  At home, at work, at church!  With my wife, with my children and all whom I come across!  So I started my reading in Proverbs and got all kinds of good scriptures talking about good words spoken in season and the how the mouths of the righteous give life!  But deeper than that is the source of all words.  Thats your heart!  Thats my heart!  What have I been puttin init?  Really, accordding to scripture if you wanted to knonw what was in ones heart all you have to do is listen to what comes outta his mouth!  OUCH!!!!  That was enough right there to make me turn to God and ask forgiveness!  And then began to take control of what I’ve been putting in!  Jesus said that it is from the abundance of the heart that the mouth speaks!  So you wanna stop being so negative…  Or maybe ya wanna know whats in ya heart!  Then Get Ya Grill Dawg…..